Marriage: A Milestone...or Biological Stalemate?
A passage is about to commence! One of my good friends is getting married this weekend and I am genuinely excited for him, since I think he and his future bride have shown that they really do complement each other (otherwise I'd tell the groom to run for the hills).
Several of my other friends - particularly my female friends - have been lamenting about marriage, since as many of them cut into their twenties and thirties, they expect to get married by a certain time. For one of my guy friends, we'll call him Pedro to protect the innocent, his girlfriend, Mamacita (also a fake name) is pressuring him to commit to tying the knot. Of course, Pedro's terrified of the idea because he doesn't want to be tied down - he wants to "see what else is out there for him."
This poses an interesting point, because the idea of the girl wanting commitment while the guy doesn't, is such a common notion that it's the plot point to practically every movie that involves romance.
I read an interesting theory about this in a book that attempts to explain men and women on the biological level (I got some funny looks at the bookstore that day): in a nutshell, it's the male's job to spread his seed to as many female eggs as possible and it's the female's job to bat the males away and single out one who'd be there for the "long haul" of taking care of her through pregnancy and childrearing. In other words, men are sluts and women play hard-to-get for a reason - it's all about continuing the human race!
Of course, anyone who takes this piece of information too literally is in for a doozy when he uses it to find a date, but maybe it would provide some comfort if you're ever wondering why it's so hard to make a relationship work. Or maybe this theory just made your life a little more dark. -vMonday, August 18, 2008
Passage of Lovers
Marriage: A Milestone...or Biological Stalemate?
A passage is about to commence! One of my good friends is getting married this weekend and I am genuinely excited for him, since I think he and his future bride have shown that they really do complement each other (otherwise I'd tell the groom to run for the hills).
Several of my other friends - particularly my female friends - have been lamenting about marriage, since as many of them cut into their twenties and thirties, they expect to get married by a certain time. For one of my guy friends, we'll call him Pedro to protect the innocent, his girlfriend, Mamacita (also a fake name) is pressuring him to commit to tying the knot. Of course, Pedro's terrified of the idea because he doesn't want to be tied down - he wants to "see what else is out there for him."
This poses an interesting point, because the idea of the girl wanting commitment while the guy doesn't, is such a common notion that it's the plot point to practically every movie that involves romance.
I read an interesting theory about this in a book that attempts to explain men and women on the biological level (I got some funny looks at the bookstore that day): in a nutshell, it's the male's job to spread his seed to as many female eggs as possible and it's the female's job to bat the males away and single out one who'd be there for the "long haul" of taking care of her through pregnancy and childrearing. In other words, men are sluts and women play hard-to-get for a reason - it's all about continuing the human race!
Of course, anyone who takes this piece of information too literally is in for a doozy when he uses it to find a date, but maybe it would provide some comfort if you're ever wondering why it's so hard to make a relationship work. Or maybe this theory just made your life a little more dark. -v
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I've thought the same thing too a few times.
ReplyDeleteIt may be more rooted in social reasons rather than biological. Too many choices and too many things to distract the men. (Same can go for women as well. Maybe this is why there's been a resurgence of going back to "simpler times"?) Some folks don't thrive under multiple choices and distractions, and that goes for more than just romantic relationships.
The impact of the 60's/70's and the cultural revolution - breaking away from anything that was considered tradition before - that has alot to do with how we interpret the situation now.
...And a million other reasons. Rabbit trails abound - without the several hundred offspring.
Either way, I think things in this world are so unbalanced as is that it's difficult for humans to see things as is, or how they have been, or - dare I say it - how they were intended to be from the beginning. Seeing, through a glass darkly, as the saying goes.
Vi, I can't finish reading your passage 'cause I got bored. Dude. fuck the theory, let's go get you a lap dance and drunk on vodka. Good times...
ReplyDeletei'm just kidding about the boring part. I read it all.
i agree with the first commenter -- i think a lot of this has to do with the overabundance of options people of our generation are facing as we enter the "adult" world. we've all been told since we were little kids that you can "have it all" and "live your dream" and etc.. when in actuality we are not capable of delving into and experiencing an infinite number of lives, careers, partners, etc. i think a lot of people our age have a ridiculous sense of entitlement and that leads to erratic and impulsive behavior because no one knows how to be still/quiet/satisfied. everyone is running all over the place trying to BE and DO it all -- career, leisure, independence, children... it's all very contradictory, and i think that confuses people.
ReplyDeletei for one am definitely a fan of "back to basics" -- family, food, home, love, laughter.
interesting stuff!!
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